Tuesday, March 22, 2016

How (I Think) Maturity Changes Me.

They say, maturity comes when you stop making excuses and start making changes. I can't help but to agree to this. One can have all experience in the world, but if they choose not to move forward and keep making the same mistakes instead, they won't grow up. And that is the real price to be an adult. So here are the 5 things that I am slowly trying to adopt into my 25-year-old me.

1. Was once a person who easily blows off when someone wasted my time either by being not punctual, or doing things slothily right before my eyes. Now that there's a lot of things I can do with my phone, waiting has been less burdening than ever. Not saying that I am okay with waiting tho, I still hate it. But I am a little bit calmer now when the situation happens.

2. Slowly getting over from being too much of an OCD person. Used to take a longer time getting myself from bedroom to the kitchen or elsewhere in the house. Because I'd stop to fix the slightly lifted flower wreath on the mirror at the staircase. Then stop again to make sure the table runner is even at both ends. And it went on till I actually reached my destination. I guess, my nephews and nieces are the chill pills that help me a lot on this. You know, house with babies and toddlers can never be as tidy as you want it to be. So keep chilling and play with them!

3. Putting others' needs into monthly financial budget. I feel like I was able to treat myself with good food and clothes during my studying years more than I do these days. Especially when both your parents are retired, you wouldn't want to see them spending money on your sibling(s) who still goes to school when you've already earned money yourself. Or pay the bill when eating out with them. Or pay the gas when you drive them around. And etc2.

4. Weekends are for my family. Do not disturb! Back in the days when I was so comitted to this one NGO body, number of times I saw frustrated faces of my parents when I told them I couldn't attend my cousin's baby's aqiqah, or couldn't stay longer at kampung, or whatever family events were there at that time, with exactly one same reason. That I had to go to a programme. Now, setting my priorities to win both situations is the toughest thing to do, but once I've set them right, I am good to go. One thing that has, since then, been a pillar in my decision-making is, you staying at home doesn't mean you lose your chance to do good deeds.

5. Accepting the fact that my parents are growing older, which should be enough reason for me to always be patient when their overly sensitive nature takes place. It doesn't come easily for the short-tempered me. Seriously, it always frustratingly tires me out. But that's how life is. You've got to force yourself at some point and without you knowing, you've accustomed to that and get better each day. Exactly, they made this "1 mother can take care of 10 children, but 10 children cannot take care of 1 mother" saying for a reason.